Some men take a rather particular attitude when it comes to premature ejaculation. The attitude is usually something like this:
Why should I last long during sex when my girlfriend doesn’t even care? I mean she never complains about it and I always encourage her in other ways anyway. Also, she prefers oral sex to normal sex. I can give her oral sex and then have regular sex and not have to worry if she lasts too long during sex. I think it’s better this way as I don’t have to strain to last and I can ejaculate after a minute or so.
This is an interesting take to rationalize premature ejaculation. It even seems like it might make sense, right? I mean it sounds like your partner enjoys sex. It is not that he is ignoring her needs, and in fact, it seems that he is providing her with the desired pleasures. And, of course, it’s downloading at an opportune moment of a minute or two. Everything seems fine, right?
Wrong.
There are many things wrong with the above statement. Let’s see why this is simply the bum’s excuse for living with premature ejaculation and not taking action to find solutions.
- First of all, your girlfriend probably isn’t complaining for the typical reasons. She may not want to bring it up due to embarrassment. Many women don’t want to “rock the boat” with this problem, so they remain silent.
- Many women have actually never experienced devastating orgasms (or true orgasms) through standard sex! This is very common and the reason why? You guessed it. The man’s inability to last long during sex. This is most likely the case here. I guarantee you that if this woman could experience the kind of lasting sex that results in devastating orgasms, she would indeed speak up and say, “Look dude, you need to learn how to last long during sex soon!”
- You (the boyfriend) are actually having low-level sex and you don’t even know it. Ejaculating after only a minute or two is not experiencing true sexual arousal. For many guys, that’s actually considered an unsatisfying orgasm. So this guy is only having mediocre sex at best. He says he “doesn’t have to fight” to hold out long enough during sex, but he has no idea that it’s “the fight” (which doesn’t have to be a fight) that makes your orgasm ten times stronger.