Are you still embarrassed when your teenager expressed his desire to go to the ED Sheeran concert? Welcome to being a parent to a TEENAGER! Start a new journey, but be sure to deviate from old parenting mindsets, patterns, and conversations.
The onset of puberty sets a myriad of new challenges for a teenager. Suddenly your personality is changing. The choice of color is no longer the same. They are more interested in music and fashion. New dimensions and opportunities are presented to them. They know many things that make us feel old. In fact, this is a sign to understand that our parenting needs a little adjustment. Being the parent of a teenager can sometimes add to your stress. As you tackle new issues, it should be noted that they too are brimming with news in all fields. Your body is changing, your attitude is changing, academics are becoming broader and facing decision-making in all fields.
I would strictly recommend being a ‘friendly parent’ and NOT a friend to your child. We often say, ‘We are friends with our son.’ The problem here is that they have mixed feelings when you correct them for a thing or two, whereas a friend would always agree with their actions. Children drink watching. We all have to preach. What remains a ‘NO’ should be just that. It is always good to give a reason for being rejected. When you object to the adolescent, be careful with your choice of words. It hurts and they may not show it. But deep down they are all little children. They still need the sweet compliments and approving smiles. Encourage them in the best way so they know that you are always there for them.
Family time with the adolescent is very important. Try to do more interesting things. Allow them to be independent with their wardrobe management and school work. Keep an open door (in your mind) to help and encourage them to come to you with a problem. It is good to be careful with the words we use as they convey your concerns to us. Give them a tip or two on how to be careful when going out with a friend or group. The ‘GOOD TOUCH and BAD TOUCH’ sermon makes them feel uncomfortable now, but that’s one more step towards bonding. Love and respect will continue forever.