Are you in a relationship with someone who is excessively jealous? Maybe when you first got together, jealousy made it seem like your lover was really into you. Later it began to be a loss of power. What at first seemed like passion has turned into a constant battle. Perhaps your partner told you that they had been cheated on by a previous lover. You think it would make sense to feel insecure about someone new.
Eventually, this behavior affects you so much that you may be looking for a way out. The jealous lover creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s not that you intend to cheat or have ever cheated on your partner. But you may be losing the love you once felt. Jealousy is often the result of insecurity. Take a look at this checklist and see if you are dealing with an insecure partner:
* Check my phone to see who I called
* Check my bag or wallet for evidence that I am cheating
* Ask me who I need to smell good for when I wear cologne or perfume
* He doesn’t want me to wear certain clothes
*Watches me like a hawk in social gatherings
* Always wants to do things with me and doesn’t trust me to go out with my friends or peers
* accuse me of flirting
* Accuse me of cheating
* Follows me when I leave home
* Check the mileage of my car
* Times from the office to the house
* I spend too much time defending and explaining my behavior
* I am constantly trying to calm and reassure my partner
Keep in mind that if you’re in a relationship with a jealous person and you haven’t done anything to create those jealous feelings—you haven’t cheated on them, flirted outrageously, or engaged in any dishonorable behavior—you may be dealing with an extremely insecure person. person. What happened in her partner’s past is not her fault, but it will continue to be her problem as long as they are together.
If you are willing to work with your insecure partner to create a calmer and more secure relationship, for both of you, it is possible, although it will take some time and energy. The first step is to recognize that there is a problem. My next article will cover some ways you can achieve this.