You just can’t do anything with that little guy sitting on your shoulder, can you? The little devil who is the green-eyed monster better known as “jealousy”.
Controlling jealousy is essential for men, but some resort to it at all times.
Are you?
I feel like showing her jealousy is the relationship equivalent of eating a couple of sugary doughnuts.
When I eat a donut, it tastes great at the time and then half an hour later I regret my decision to eat it because the sugar skyrockets in my bloodstream and those starchy treats sit in my stomach like a rock.
When you show jealousy towards her, it makes you feel good at the time, like you’re in complete control, but you’re actually planting something in your relationship that will sit there like a rock.
Feeling the need to question her every move shows her your insecurity. And believe me, no clinically sane woman with normal self-esteem wants a jealous man in her case in the long run.
Has your jealousy cost you some good relationships over the years? Has it caused unnecessary conflict?
Why do you keep doing it?
You have to select a woman you can trust to start with. What does it say about you if you feel the need to keep questioning her every move? What kind of women are you choosing anyway? Is your radar off when you’re dating her? Why do you get serious with someone you can’t trust?
Obviously, this is not usually the case. You know that it is your own insecurity that leads you to fantasize about things that are simply not real.
You will probably explode in a fit of jealousy with her only to regret it later. You will permanently regret it at some point because you know she will walk.
So what can you do to control your jealousy?
1. Remember, if you have a worthwhile woman in your life, OTHER GUYS ARE GOING TO FUCK HER. It is a fact of life. If she is a good woman, she will politely refuse her advances.
2. If he wants to cheat on you, he will cheat on you. Women are born better than us at dating and relationships. They study it from an early age. Trust me dude, when it comes to dating and relationships, you’re bringing a squirt gun to the fight.38 special. If she has it in her brain to cheat on you, no amount of questioning will stop her.
The key is to select a good, respectful woman with a lot of integrity that you can TRUST and then TRUST HER. You seem like a pathetic child in his eyes when you are so insecure that you keep questioning his every move. I don’t care if you can bench 500lbs and won 3 titles for fighting, she will think her deepest thoughts about you “cowardly” if she detects ANY insecurity on your part. And there’s nothing that says “insecurity” like showing jealousy.
Remember guys, you have to TRUST her to KEEP her.