Relationships can be difficult, but they don’t have to be. One of the things that makes them difficult is when people obsessively worry about things that they probably shouldn’t. What people worry about varies from person to person, but here are 8 common things that many people stress about.
Do any of these sound familiar to you? Worried about it …
1. Your partner can cheat.
Everyone wants to be the “only one” of their partner, right? Somewhere deep down (or not so deep) we think that once we’re in our relationship, our boyfriend / girlfriend won’t even notice anyone but us. But let’s think about this for a minute. No one goes blind to hot people in the world just because they start dating someone. In fact, it is quite normal. But not everyone acts on their attraction. The important thing is to work on your self-esteem so that you think that if your partner wanted to cheat on you, then you are too good for them and you wouldn’t want them anyway.
2. Your partner could break up with you
Again, as I just said in the first point, the fear that your boyfriend or girlfriend will leave you has its roots in low self-esteem. Also, only negative energy is wasted. If you feel good about yourself, then you won’t worry about them breaking up with you. You should think that you are a real trap. Because you are! Have the attitude that your partner is lucky to have you. That way, you won’t expose all those negative emotions and ruin the relationship.
3. You are not good enough for the partner.
Well, you will start to see a theme here. Self esteem, self esteem, self esteem !! It all comes down to having good self-esteem !! If you think you are not good enough for your partner, why do you think this? Do you think you are too fat? Too short? Too uneducated? Too poor? Too shy? Too unattractive? And the list goes on. Well get over it! Realize that you are good enough for your partner. I have heard many people say that the most attractive quality in a person is self-confidence. So if a super model is unsure of herself, many men would find her “less attractive.” On the contrary, if an average overweight person radiates self-esteem and confidence, that is much more attractive to people.
4. Your partner is not good enough for you.
Or maybe you have too much self-esteem. Okay, I think that’s an oxymoron. But there is a fine line between being self-confident and being selfish. In reality, people who seem selfish don’t really love themselves. They just want to look like they do, which is why they try so hard to get other people to focus on them. However, with that said, you must accept and love your partner for who they are. They are all perfect in their own way. But that doesn’t mean they are all perfect for you. If you don’t feel like the two of you are a good match, go ahead! A happy relationship comes from compatibility and equality.
Your partner’s friends and family don’t like you
Hello? Self esteem again? Why wouldn’t they like you? Are you a horrible person? Probably not! If they don’t like you, then one of three things is happening: (1) you really are a horrible person (probably not!), (2) you are a bad judge of character (maybe), or (3) you are very, very different from you (think extrovert versus introvert or overly intellectual versus not so much). And honestly, number 3 is probably the most likely. So it’s not a big deal, is it? And what if you are different? If they were all the same, then the world would be a very boring place.
6. Your partner prefers to be with other people rather than with you.
I will not say it again. You know what I’m thinking (yes, self esteem issues). Okay, even if your partner spends a lot of time with their friends, family, or at work, does that mean they don’t love you? Absolutely not! Everyone is different! An extrovert and an introvert have a hard time understanding each other. Extroverts love and need to spend time with a lot of people. Often. Introverts don’t need that. So it may seem like a personal rejection, but it is not. It’s just that you are different. Spending time with other people does not amount to rejection!
7. Your partner is no longer attracted to you
This could be based on self-esteem, or it could be that a long time has passed and your partner does not seem to be as sexually receptive to you as he was at the beginning of the relationship. Actually, that is not an uncommon occurrence. But no transport. If you’ve gained weight or lost sight of taking care of yourself, do something about it! But if it’s just a natural progression through different phases of a relationship, then don’t worry about it. You will settle into a natural rhythm. If it doesn’t work for you, keep going!
8. You don’t have enough (or too much) sex
As I said in n. 7, maybe it’s just a relationship phase. Or maybe one of the partners has changed a lot physically. Or maybe your partner seems like a nymphomaniac compared to your sex drive. Either way, this situation requires having an open and honest conversation. Communication is key to a good and healthy relationship. So if your sex life isn’t what you want, then just talk to each other. Sharing perspectives helps clear things up and helps you both understand each other.
To sum it all up, remember two things. First love yourself! You are beautiful (or handsome) and amazing !! Don’t let any worry ruin your relationship. If you don’t love yourself, work on your self-esteem. Can be done! And second, worrying is like praying for something you don’t want to happen. Negative energy directed at your partner is not productive. It just adds to the problem. So love yourself, accept the positive and be happy.