A good relationship with a loving partner definitely makes life worth living. Whether you’re married, divorced, or single, there’s no doubt you’ve discovered that sex is a very important element in finding and maintaining a healthy and happy love life.
However, the meaning of sex between men and women is as different as a rock from a jet plane. Men can be visually aroused by sexy lingerie or a hot model in an adult magazine. While a woman needs to be emotionally connected to have sex.
Because both sexes are wired differently, sexual problems can drive a wedge between couples.
Problems experienced by women include:
– Difficulty becoming sexually aroused
– Trouble reaching orgasm
– Not enough foreplay before intercourse
Problems cited by men include:
– Ejaculate too fast
– Attraction to women other than their partner.
– Erectile dysfunction
So comes the inevitable question… How can I help my partner achieve orgasm consistently?
Are here 3 easy tips for foreplay that will make you a great lover and generate high intensity full body orgasms for both you and your partner:
Use the sense of touch to arouse your partner
Arouse erotic anticipation in your lover by introducing physical contact into your lovemaking. Gently and slowly massage those secret hot spots. One part of the body to focus on is the ears. You can stimulate the ear by gently stroking it with your tongue or slowly feeling it with your finger.
Another body part to target is the inner thighs. There are a host of sensual nerve endings waiting for your touch. Start with slow, short strokes and build up to a mediocre pace.
However… are you ready for the number one hot spot that will spice up your sex life and get those juices flowing?
If you really want your partner to explode with desire, the most hypnotic and erotic place in the body is the feet.
The secret of foot pleasure began in the Bible. In the book of Solomon beginning in chapter 7, King Solomon woke up his many wives admiring his feet and sandals. Solomon had 1,000 wives, so imagine his shoe bill. Also, the Chinese have been using foot pleasure since the Tang dynasty in the 10th century and it still exists in their culture today.
The goal is to awaken the senses, all of them using the power of the foot. There is nothing more pleasant than a long, slow and relaxing foot massage. Use a sensual-smelling massage oil like Japanese cherry and massage the bottom of your foot in a slow, circular motion. Next, use your nose or tongue and explore your toes, balls of feet, heels, and the top of your foot. Stroking the ankles, massaging the arches, sniffing and kissing the soles of the feet, or sucking on the toes are easy yet highly effective ways to bring your partner to total bliss!
change your sex routine
If you find that you are bored or dissatisfied with sex, try changing your sexual routine. For example, if you are a woman and you are naked during sex, buy a sexy nightgown. If you normally wear a nightgown, get naked and show off your body. If you’re a man, change out of that old pajama top or T-shirt and buy yourself a silk nightgown.
A second tip is to make love in a different room in the house, like the shower, the hot tub, the washing machine while it’s on the spin cycle, or the pool table. However, beware of that glass coffee table that was only made to hold 50 pounds. Be creative, use common sense and have fun.
A third piece of advice is to change or bring forward your sexual positions. For example, if you’re a woman, try bringing one of her knees up to her chest or try resting both legs on her shoulders.
And here is the new sex super tip of the century:
Reverse the universal sexual position: for all men, lie on your back, and for women, mount it. This position will allow the man to prolong the accumulation before ejaculation. The man doesn’t move at all while the woman does all her work using her penis to hit every g-spot, h-spot, i-spot or whatever alphabet she’s looking for. This technique will eliminate the 2 minute man forever. The football game in the other room will have to go into overtime if he wants to see it.
Plan a spontaneous and romantic experience
Instead of the crowded restaurant scene, have a candlelit dinner for two. Or plan a sexy picnic with your favorite foods and a large rug and blanket to cover you both. Then spend a romantic night in a hotel. If you have kids, hire a babysitter for the day and spend the day visiting art galleries, museums, or the zoo.
Here are some more romantic ideas that both a man and a woman can enjoy:
– Buy new sheets for the bed and leave a love note on it.
– Too tired to cook or not a good cook and have a limited budget? Ask a friend to prepare a meal for you and spend an evening with your partner in front of the fireplace.
– For men, know the six gifts that women most request: jewelry, shoes, handbags, perfumes, lingerie and attention.
– For women, learn about the six gifts that men request the most: sports memorabilia, tools, electronics, clothing, tickets and no nagging.
– Frame your baby photos together.
– While in public, show your affection by holding hands, hugging, or simply saying, I love you.
– Take long walks together on a regular basis.
– Make a homemade card or write a poem to your partner.
– For women, hide a box of chocolates under the pillow.
– For men, hide a gift certificate from your favorite store or salon.
– Communicate and listen to each other.
– Schedule and learn a new dance routine together at your local dance studio.
Remember: action speaks much louder than words. You don’t have to buy big and expensive things, it’s the little things you do that make you a good lover.
So… shake your lazy butt and show your partner that you love him.